Part 1

There’s no way around it, dating today is fucking hard. In terms of getting laid, it’s easier to meet a girl on a random night, both of you drunk and in the mood to hook up, chemistry is in the air, you make out a little, run game, logistics work out fine and you two jump in a cab to go hump like rabbits. Now if you get that same girls phone number call and set up a date it all goes to shit and most of the time the vibe is gone. When it comes to a date there are just way too many variables that can fuck you up. It’s such a crap shoot that today’s men are saying fuck it all together. Not because they’ve got enough experience that they don’t need to date or can avoid it, but out of fear of not knowing how to do it correctly. I’ve had some rough ones and my fair share of failure over the years. Then this last year I went on a crazy first date bang or hook up streak that worked very well for me. I noticed that my successful dates have pattern. This got me thinking of dating in a new way. What is a date but a declaration of war. A battle of will where you as the guy get to pick the time, locations, and basically the pace of conversation. When you think about it nothing “random” really needs to happen on the surface. Dates that end well with me have three parts, The Prep work or pre date, the first location and venue change, and closing moves. Of course all three of these parts are different for everybody and nothing is a 100% guarantee.

Part 2

The first important part of the date is doing your best to make sure the broad shows up. I have a running joke with my friends that it’s not actually a date until the girl is in front of you and has taken a sip of her drink or put a piece of food in her mouth. Until then all bets are off. Now most guys run their game on a girl and when the one night bang doesn’t work out they get the number and then call sometime during the week to set up a date. This is half right. Run your game, push for at least a make out or the very minimum some dirty dancing and touching. For me before I get her number I’ll ask if she likes authentic old school sushi. Of course she does what is she a communist? When she says yes, I tell her I know a place then I ask her if she’s free on Thursday. If that’s a yes right then and there (she’s feeling me) I ask for her phone number and tell her I’ll call and set up the time. This way when I call or txt early in the week she’ll already know what I’m calling about and I won’t have to go through the awkwardness of setting up a date from scratch on the phone. You have no clue what a huge difference this makes in reducing flakes. The second important thing is your choice of your first venue. It should be a place you frequent and take first dates often. You’re familiarity with the staff, menu and surrounding venues for change will help you come of as more relaxed and in your element. Again big difference. Don’t try a new trendy spot that just opened up. Remember that this is your battle field so you choose. It’s also important to have such spots all over town. A favorite in Adams Morgan, U street, Midtown area, Georgetown. If you don’t have nosy roommates then one close to your house is fine.

Part 3

The next thing you should do before the official date is work on the conversational thread. There will be more of this in prt 2. But for now just have a set of questions ready for the part of the date besides where are you from and what do you do. Not only should you have these questions memorized but also have the answers memorized too. It’s common to forget that after your date answers the question she’ll return the exact same question at you with… and you? It is important to already have a conversation outline ready for the date, this will help lesson the awkward pauses that will come up and make sure you come off interesting and seem interested to get to know her. Lastly have your outfit already put together and good to go. Now you don’t have to suit it up like me but at least dress like you’ve done this before. That is dress believable. Dress in a way that implies that you’d normally wear this if you weren’t on a date or you wear this outfit out on most dates. Whatever your style is make sure what you’re rocking is clean, ironed, krispy and fashionable. Just look like the type of guy she can be seen with in public. A lot of guys get this wrong.